Thursday, September 11, 2008

Traditions & Superstitions-The Bride's Attire

This edition of Traditions and Superstitions is based on the Bride's Attire. Why we wear what we do.

Brides were always thought of being vulnerable to evil spirits. Many of our wedding customs and traditions originated as an attempt to fight them away.

The Dress

  • Ann of Brittany started the tradition of the white wedding dress in 1499 when she married King Louis XII of France. And so it begins.
  • Queen Victoria wore a white dress at her wedding in 1840. Royals usually wore silver to their weddings. She's the reason we do it today.
  • The tradition of virgins wearing white began with the Romans. They would wear white to celebrations.
  • Royal British brides sew a silver horseshoe into the hem of their gowns.
  • Until the 1800's women wore their best dress, usually red or yellow.
  • During biblical times, bridal dresses were usually blue since it symbolized purity.
  • Beginning in early Roman times, white symbolized a joyful celebration.
  • Since the Middle Ages, the length of the train equaled your rank in court. The longer the train, the higher your favor was with the King & Queen. Remember Princess Diana's?
  • During the twentieth century white stood for purity. Today it just means happiness.
  • If you look in the mirror right before you leave to the ceremony it will bring you good luck. But, if you look in one again before your ceremony your luck will tarnish to bad.
  • It is bad luck to make your own wedding dress.
  • You also shouldn't wear all of your ensemble before your wedding day. Some women leave a stitch undone till their wedding day.
  • The English believe a spider found in a wedding dress means good luck.
  • Here is a Victorian Poem about the color of the dress~
    Married in White, you have chosen right
    Married in Grey, you will go far away,
    Married in Black, you will wish yourself back,
    Married in Red, you will wish yourself dead,
    Married in Green, ashamed to be seen,
    Married in Blue, you will always be true,
    Married in Pearl, you will live in a whirl,
    Married in Yellow, ashamed of your fellow,
    Married in Brown, you will live in the town,
    Married in Pink, you spirit will sink

The Veil

  • The veil was worn with the belief that it would disguise the bride and fool the evil spirits.
  • Early Greek and Roman brides wore either yellow or red veils.
  • Early Christian brides wore white or purple.
  • The veil originally symbolized the bride's virginity, innocence, and modesty.
  • Historically, the bridal veil relates to the head coverings worn by unmarried and married women in different cultures as a sign of modesty and female subservience.
  • The veil as a symbol of purity, is from the Judaic tradition when Rebbecca wore a veil to cover her face when she met Issac on their wedding day.
  • In the bible, Leah tricked Jacob into marrying her instead of his beloved Rachael by wearing a heavy veil and concealing her face.
  • The reason we wear veils here in the United States is because of Nelly Curtis. She was standing behind a sheer curtain when her fiance, Major Lawrence Lewis, an aide of George Washington, told her how beautiful she looked. So of course, she decided to wear one on their wedding day.
  • The lifting of the veil at the end of the ceremony symbolizes male dominance. If a bride lifts her veil first, presenting herself to him, she is showing her independence.

Headpieces

  • The earliest brides topped their heads with floral and herbal wreaths.
  • Queen Victoria wore a crown of orange blossoms and myrtle, instead of a tiara.
  • The earliest tiaras are from ancient Egypt. They used them to decorate the heads of royal mummies.
  • In Greece, goldsmiths created tiaras to adorn the heads of statues of their Gods and priests. They also awarded tiaras to contest champions. Remember the Athens Olympics.
  • Highly ranked individuals wore them during social functions and special occasions in Ancient Greece and Rome.
  • Inspired by ancient Rome, women of the court in the 1700's used tiara designs that were simple and symmetrical. These tiaras were usually decorated with laurel and olive leaves.
  • English jewelers were designing finer, sought after tiaras early in the 19th Century. That's when brides started wearing them to their weddings. It was the birth of the wedding tiara.
  • In the middle of the 19th century all across Europe, court life flourished and magnificent jewelry tiaras became all the rage.
  • In the early 1900, more tiaras were worn than ever before.

Gloves

  • Are symbols of modesty and romance.
  • Without the 'g', they are 'a pair of loves'.
  • Princesses almost always wear them.
  • Tuck a sugar cube into your glove and the sugar will sweeten your union.
  • During the 18th and 19th centuries, gloves were the traditional wedding favor for all guests.
  • Up until the 1960's, all well-mannered ladies wore them, even during the day.
  • Formal etiquette still says that a bride should wear gloves as a symbol of grace.

The Handkerchief

  • The wedding handkerchief is usually passed down from mother to daughter and from generation to generation.
  • Early farmers thought a bride's wedding day tears were lucky and that they would bring rain for their crops.
  • It is thought that a crying bride meant that she would never shed another tear about her marriage.
  • We now use a handkerchief to dab away our tears of happiness and joy.

The Garter

  • It's how most bride's achieve their something blue.
  • Brides wore a blue ribbon to signify "fidelity" in ancient Israel.

The Somethings are actually from a Victorian rhyme.

  • Something Old-something passed down through the bride's family. A symbol of continuity.
  • Something New-is for good luck in the bride's new life and new family.
  • Something Borrowed-should be on 'loan' from a happily married woman, that way her luck 'rubs' of on the bride.
  • Something Blue-represents faithfulness, purity, hope and love.
  • Silver Sixpence in your Shoe-it should be in the bride's left shoe for wealth and happiness in her marriage. Not only financial wealth but a wealth of happiness and joy throughout her married life.

Shoes

  • There's a Turkey custom that has all of the bridesmaid's sign the bottom of the bride's shoe and whichever name wears off first will be the next to wed and gets to keep the shoes.
  • Modern Traditions-I am loving the colorful shoe. Brides are now adding splashes of color to their gowns if not forgoing the white gown altogether. I love having your something blue not being a garter, but maybe shoes, toe nail polish, or what I did, a heart toe ring with blue stones.
Happy Reading,

The photo is of me.

Monday, September 8, 2008

Beverage Monday. National Bourbon Month

This week are featuring Maker's Mark a bourbon from Kentucky, where they are celebrating National Bourbon Heritage Month.

"Maker’s Mark Just Peachy"

1 oz Maker’s Mark
3/4 oz Peach Schnapps
4 oz orange juice
1 orange slice
Fill a cocktail shaker 3/4 full of ice; add all ingredients. Shake for 30 seconds. Strain into stemmed glass (small goblet or brandy snifter). Garnish with orange slice.

The "Maker’s Mark Manhattan”



1.5 oz Maker’s Mark.
5 oz Sweet Vermouth
1 teaspoon of maraschino cherry juice
Maraschino cherry
Fill a cocktail shaker with ice; add ingredients. Shake for 30 seconds. Strain into chilled Manhattan glass. Garnish with a maraschino cherry.



Recipes and photos courtesy of Maker's Mark.

Cheers,

Saturday, September 6, 2008

Venues of the Southland~Wayfarer's Chapel

This is one of the most beautiful places to have your ceremony in Southern California. It is a little north of Long Beach on the Palos Verdes peninsula. It is an all glass chapel high up on the hill above the ocean. The Chapel Architect was Lloyd Wright, son architect Frank Lloyd Wright. He conceived the design of Wayfarers Chapel to be “tree chapel”, a natural sanctuary set in the midst of a forest of redwood trees. It is also referred to as the glass chapel. The only do ceremonies and in their two hour time blocks. The chapel seats about 100. You can also have a candlelight ceremony. This is very beautiful place in a such a natural and serene setting.


The view from the steps leading up to the chapel.

View from the Garden

The back of the chapel


The side of the chapel.
Enjoy,

All photos taken by me.

Friday, September 5, 2008

2008 vs.1958


I should have posted this last week but, I just read this article today in the Association of Bridal Consultants trade paper. It compared weddings today with those from 50 years ago. The list and photo is from AARP's June Bulletin.

Annual Weddings-1958/1.5 million 2008/2.4 million


Bride's Name-1958/Mary 2008/Jennifer


Groom's Name-1958/Robert 2008/Michael


Bride's Income-1958/$1,572 2008/$30,719


Groom's Income-1958/$2,396 2008/$34,167


Bride's Life Expectancy-1958/65 2008/78


Groom's Life Expectancy-1958/57 2008/70


Stereotype-1958/Blushing Bride 2008/Bridezilla


Wedding Gown-1958/$135 2008/$1,317


Tux Rental-1958/$5.50 2008/$69.95


Bride's Age-1958/20 2008/26


Groom's Age-1958/22 2008/28


Piece of Wedding Cake-1958/35 cents 2008/$4.52


Getaway Car-1958/Chevy Impala Convertible 2008/Toyota Camry


Gallon of Gas-1958/30 cents 2008/over $4.00


Honeymoon Cost-1958/$237 2008/$3,680


Honeymoon destination-1958 Niagra Falls 2008/Hawaii


Most Trendy Gift-1958/Corning Ware Casserole dish 2008/Nintendo Wii


Number of Children-1958/3.6 2008/2.1

My parents wed on August 30, 1958. The bride was 24 and the groom was 35. She was not a 'blushing' bride. She wore a blue dress and he wore a blue suit. They had 2 children. Their honeymoon was at Mt. Baldy, California. She lived to be 71. He is still alive and kicking at 85.

Happy Reading,


Tuesday, September 2, 2008

Ask Me About Destination Weddings

A Joyeux Day Weddings & Events can now help you with all your honeymoon travel needs. We just completed the Ask Me about Destination Weddings & Honeymoons training that is offered through the Association of Bridal Consultants. We are so excited to be offering this extra something to help you with ALL of your wedding and honeymoon planning needs.
Check out their website.
Happy Travels,


Sunday, August 31, 2008

Happy Labor Day!

We are taking the 'weekend' off. Ok, just Sunday & Monday. Venues of the Southland and Beverage Monday will be back next week.

Enjoy your holiday-

Saturday, August 30, 2008

Golden Anniversary Board

Happy 50th Anniversary Mom & Dad!


This board is in honor of the two people who raised me on this, their Golden Anniversary.

My parents were married 50 years ago today.In my grandparents backyard under an avacado tree. My mom wore a blue dress and had flowers in her hair. My Dad wore a navy suit. If you read my posts you know that I lost my mother three years ago, and we won't be having a party today to celebrate them. Five years ago, my now husband and I were able to celebrate their 45th with them. I am glad we were able to at least celebrate that one in style.

Here are some of the happenings from 1958.
This year’s calendar is the same as was in 1958. My parents were married on Saturday, August 30, 1958. 
Vice President: Richard M. Nixon
US Population: 174,881,904
Life expectancy: 69.6 years
Homicide Rate (per 100,000): 4.5

World Events
Army's Jupiter-C rocket fires first U.S. Earth satellite, 
Explorer I, into orbit (Jan. 31)
Gen. 
Charles de Gaulle becomes French premier (June 1), remaining in power until 1969

Entertainment
The Bridge on the River Kwai, Won the Academy Award for Best Picture
Alec Guinness, The Bridge on the River Kwai, Best Actor
Joanne Woodward, The Three Faces of Eve, Best Actress

Movies-Vertigo, Gigi, Cat on a Hot Tin Roof, The Defiant Ones
Books-
Truman Capote, Breakfast at Tiffany's, Jack Kerouac, The Subterraneans

World Series
NY Yankees d. Milwaukee Braves 4-3
Cost of a first-class stamp: $0.03 ($0.04 as of 8/1/58)

The Links for the Golden Inspiration Board

Gold Wedding Gown by Mon Cheri Bridals, Gold Reception from Brides, 50th Anniversary Invitation by Fine Stationary, Jimmy Choo shoes from Saks Fifth Avenue, Gold Bells from The Wedding Shop at The Knot, 1958 Gold CadillacGold Ribbon Boxes from The Knot, Champagne photo from Brides, Place Setting from The Knot, Gold rose from Enduring Rose, Gold Cake from Brides, Event scene: Bolsover CastleTuxedo & Vest from The Knot, Gold Swirl Invitation by Invitation Consultants, Crystal Bouquet by Gemcast